Assistant : Assistants who let a friendship influence them
- 21
- Aug
- 2014
You know the saying: “Tell me who your friends are and I’ll tell you who you are”?
There are so many popular sayings and even many meaningless ones, but this saying portrays the truth.
I met an assistant who served with excellence, she truly gave her life completely to God and was always willing serve in everything. But over time, I started noticing she was distancing herself, and was no longer giving herself to the work of God as before. She was getting cold in her faith. She no longer evangelized like she used to, and her words were empty and without expression. She rarely had anytime to counsel the people and always arrived as the services started. I warned her many times and even asked her what was going on because I noticed her looking “dull”.
Until one day, she finally looked for me to talk about what was going on. She had allowed herself to be influenced by her co-workers, but why? Because, the fact that she was young meant she was easier to influence. Obviously age is not the reason why people are easily influenced, but the influence that usually has a negative impact is the one that involves people who are not in the same faith, and this is dangerous.
She was completely involved with these friendships to the point of losing the fear of God, but what’s worst of all is that her salvation was at risk.
However, she did something very important to change the situation, she cut the problem from the root. She did this by seeking help she recognized her spiritual state, and in addition made radical decisions to cut off those friendships.
Sadly we often see assistant who end up being completely contaminated by these types of friendships. Which was not the case of this assistant.
If you are experiencing a similar situation; or you are that assistant who doesn’t cut the problem from the root, the one that does not watch the kind of friends you have and the conversations your involved in, then you should know that you are on the verge of losing your salvation.
Jesus said: “Not what goes into the mouth defiles a man; but what comes out of the mouth, this defiles a man.” (Matthew 15:11)
I would like to know if you have experienced anything like this, or witnessed a situation like this.
Leave your comment below
mmabatho magolego
31st October 2014 at 12:57
true to that …since i became am assistant in the church i have cut many roots specially in friendship because i know in some way, some how you can be influenced and end up losing your salvation. thank you for the tip.
nomthandazo philile
30th October 2014 at 9:53
i was once in this situation and back then i was recently being raised as an assistant and i was so young i was 14 years old,and the friends i had were long time in the work of God and they would gossip,talk bad about pastors etc,but praise GOD the pastor called mt attention and i mananged to change while i had time to do so.
Duduzile
30th October 2014 at 3:11
Dear Mrs Luisa
I know exactly what you are talking about, some who have been through such is not because they don’t see what is going on but because they want to “fit in” so they do whatever the other friends think its best.
When someone lacks their own identity they go along with whatever everybody else thinks is right!
Nantairo Gloria
25th October 2014 at 8:24
We surely have nothing in common with the people that are not of our faith so we should influence them by inviting them to our faith and not to let them influence us otherwise will end up cold.
Thank you for the alert.
precious
24th October 2014 at 12:37
i have seen some people being influenced by their friends ,a good servant who was good he start to rebel against the pastors of the church .we need to think about our salvation if we see that the friends that we have are a bad influence on us we need to walk away .i have learnt that i rather be alone than to have friend that will take me to hell with them .
Tanyika
23rd October 2014 at 18:21
Friendship is good, but we have to make sure that the people we surround ourselves with are not hazardous to our souls.
Also, the type of friendships we keep shows our spiritual condition. Spirit attracts Spirit and flesh attracts flesh.