Assistant : Assistants who let a friendship influence them
- 21
- Aug
- 2014
You know the saying: “Tell me who your friends are and I’ll tell you who you are”?
There are so many popular sayings and even many meaningless ones, but this saying portrays the truth.
I met an assistant who served with excellence, she truly gave her life completely to God and was always willing serve in everything. But over time, I started noticing she was distancing herself, and was no longer giving herself to the work of God as before. She was getting cold in her faith. She no longer evangelized like she used to, and her words were empty and without expression. She rarely had anytime to counsel the people and always arrived as the services started. I warned her many times and even asked her what was going on because I noticed her looking “dull”.
Until one day, she finally looked for me to talk about what was going on. She had allowed herself to be influenced by her co-workers, but why? Because, the fact that she was young meant she was easier to influence. Obviously age is not the reason why people are easily influenced, but the influence that usually has a negative impact is the one that involves people who are not in the same faith, and this is dangerous.
She was completely involved with these friendships to the point of losing the fear of God, but what’s worst of all is that her salvation was at risk.
However, she did something very important to change the situation, she cut the problem from the root. She did this by seeking help she recognized her spiritual state, and in addition made radical decisions to cut off those friendships.
Sadly we often see assistant who end up being completely contaminated by these types of friendships. Which was not the case of this assistant.
If you are experiencing a similar situation; or you are that assistant who doesn’t cut the problem from the root, the one that does not watch the kind of friends you have and the conversations your involved in, then you should know that you are on the verge of losing your salvation.
Jesus said: “Not what goes into the mouth defiles a man; but what comes out of the mouth, this defiles a man.” (Matthew 15:11)
I would like to know if you have experienced anything like this, or witnessed a situation like this.
Leave your comment below
christine cajapeno
23rd October 2014 at 8:33
dear Mrs Viviane,i really learnt a lot today,that i should watch the kind of friends i have and that whenevr i face a situation i need to cut the problem from the roots,and that i must have a zeal for my salvation more than anything.
merciambenge
21st October 2014 at 15:00
this is very true sometimes we even desire to serve God as assistants because we see our friends in the uniform we just want to follow the crowd at the end of the day we become weeds amongst other servants
Memory Moyo
18th October 2014 at 19:50
Sadly it is happening Mrs Vivi, in my curse its never happened not because I better but because I have never been a person who makes friends and it has always been hard to trust anyone latterall to trust myself to be around many people yes I socialise but making friends its always been tough ever since I started to serve God I have seen such things happening a good Assistant eventually being influenced to the point that she starts dating without the Authority’s approval and when their attention was called they started giving the same answers those who influenced her always gave. For an example she would say this is my life no one has a right to tell me what to do, you are not my mother!
Soo sad but it happens and unfortunately some they leave the work of God, some remain rotten only with the hope one day they realise their mistakes!
sphokazi zide
15th October 2014 at 14:52
Dear Mrs Loisa
Well I have been in that kind of situation but for me
It was assistants aswell and I noticed that they are drifting away from God and I tryed to speak with them but the damage was already done,I saw that if I do not keep away from them I will too lose my salvation and I began to be more involved in the things of God,prayed more I told myself I’m not going to leave you my Lord .so friends are friends but one must make a decision wether its God(your salvation)or friends
Thank you
Lerato
15th October 2014 at 12:26
I learned that most of us ladies we are easily influenced we seek to be accepted by friends we have,so without realizing that we end up losing the relationship with God. So I should be watchful to people I bring close “lesson learn”
Sibongile Nhlapo
15th October 2014 at 6:04
I’m one of the Ex-assistants who left the work of God because of this it pains me everyday I pretend to be ok and that I have moved on its not so; I never wish such feeling for even an enermy it haunts me to think of the pleasure I always had in the presence of God and how strong I was and breaks my heart to know I let it aLl go in the blink of an eye.
I would like to encourage those who are still in the war please treasure what you have and fight the good fight some of us wish we could just be granted that chance to make things right.
Sibongile Nhlapo.. Gauteng-Sebokeng