Assistant : Assistants who let a friendship influence them
- 21
- Aug
- 2014
You know the saying: “Tell me who your friends are and I’ll tell you who you are”?
There are so many popular sayings and even many meaningless ones, but this saying portrays the truth.
I met an assistant who served with excellence, she truly gave her life completely to God and was always willing serve in everything. But over time, I started noticing she was distancing herself, and was no longer giving herself to the work of God as before. She was getting cold in her faith. She no longer evangelized like she used to, and her words were empty and without expression. She rarely had anytime to counsel the people and always arrived as the services started. I warned her many times and even asked her what was going on because I noticed her looking “dull”.
Until one day, she finally looked for me to talk about what was going on. She had allowed herself to be influenced by her co-workers, but why? Because, the fact that she was young meant she was easier to influence. Obviously age is not the reason why people are easily influenced, but the influence that usually has a negative impact is the one that involves people who are not in the same faith, and this is dangerous.
She was completely involved with these friendships to the point of losing the fear of God, but what’s worst of all is that her salvation was at risk.
However, she did something very important to change the situation, she cut the problem from the root. She did this by seeking help she recognized her spiritual state, and in addition made radical decisions to cut off those friendships.
Sadly we often see assistant who end up being completely contaminated by these types of friendships. Which was not the case of this assistant.
If you are experiencing a similar situation; or you are that assistant who doesn’t cut the problem from the root, the one that does not watch the kind of friends you have and the conversations your involved in, then you should know that you are on the verge of losing your salvation.
Jesus said: “Not what goes into the mouth defiles a man; but what comes out of the mouth, this defiles a man.” (Matthew 15:11)
I would like to know if you have experienced anything like this, or witnessed a situation like this.
Leave your comment below
Noluvuyo
15th October 2014 at 4:22
I once faced a similer situation aswell i had friends inside the church that when we were together we would talk about people and later i realised that my salvation was at risk, i told myself i will better be alone without any friebd than to loose my own Salvation, i cutted the root of the problem aswell by cuting my friendship with them, they didnt greet me as if i did something wrong but today im happy with the decision i made yrs ago.
Tracey-Ann Hibbert
25th September 2014 at 13:45
Thank you for this post. Ive finally is able to read this post. Sometimes if we are not careful; not in Spirit we can get persuaded very easily. Im about to travel shortly and Im preparing my Spirit as i will be working with those who dont know God. But im going with a purpose; to spread the fragrance of my Lord Jesus.
Ms guni
4th September 2014 at 15:12
This happened to me I stopped watching had a friend inside the church who was envious , jealousy, gossip and I let her in. It took a long time to cut her off completely. It got to a point of being hated and not talking.
It was worth it my life began to move on. At times you have to be brutal to save your salvation. Even if it means being hated.
Jeani
28th August 2014 at 16:56
I also work and sometimes I’m not careful in choosing people to be with. When we allow friendships from the world, at first we do not notice it coz it’s a slow fade. The best thing to do is to avoid. I always remind myself not to exchange the eternal things to the ones that are temporary because I know that in the end I will regret it.
Thandiwe Sidumo
28th August 2014 at 15:24
Dear Mrs Loisa.
This is something that happens to so many servants and many cases it happens unfortunately in the church among assistants, the groups that speaks and gossips about others and if one is’nt watchful she finds herself in danger of loosing her salvation, I remember the group that I was always with, we always grumble about this and that, complains, and thank God I removed myself there as I realised I have lost the fear and even speak against my authorities, now I am happy and serving, I have no best friend in the work of God, I am close and walks with almost all assistants in my church that makes it difficult to be influenced by the others behaviour.. I love it because I prefer being alone and its much beter because I have much time to meditate… Thank you
May Mestidio
28th August 2014 at 1:28
Hello Mrs. Luisa,
Thank you very much for this message.
I also had a similar experience here in my work.
The problem is when we get involve with people not of the same faith, we learn their ways and the end result is we get separated from God.
It is always best and safe to be separate from those not of the same faith because ” a little leaven, leavens the whole lump.” God also said we need to be holy just as He is holy, meaning, separate.
It is painful sometimes to be excluded. You feel alone. But why would we exchange what God has given us for what is temporary?
Especially as servants, we are always the target of the devil. We need to guard our faith at all cost.