From children to parents : Responsibility

The term disclaimer is a statement by which a person is declared to be responsible for a certain task, person or property.

Although there is no pre-established agreement, the truth is that parents from the moment they take on the role they are given a right and duty that should never be forgotten or neglected. As we discussed in the previous post: They have the authority to care for, help, protect, and guide a child. Your choices will define the course of your child and teen until he or she becomes an adult. Obviously, their parent’s influence will dominate!

After I did a follow up with a mother and her daughter, my attention was drawn to the fact that we should take into consideration: To what extent do will we truly perceive the reality of our family.
Life is not always, as we talked about before, “black and white” or a “bed of roses”. Difficult times arise and we have to adapt to a new reality, to an unforeseen situation beyond our control. And it is in these moments that we also realize who we are, what we believe in, and how far we can go.

When we have no reaction, wait around to see what can be done, wait to see who will have compassion on us, or wait for extra support we aren’t fulfilling our responsibility or giving a good example to those watching and looking up at us.

– If we are active, we will raise hardworking children
– If we are persistent they will not accept less from life
– If we don’t give in to our problems and take action, they will follow our example and become our ally!

It is not enough to just tell them what the past was like… you have to let them face their own challenges! Many parents, in their eagerness to keep their children from the hardships they faced and the experiences they had do not let them live their own experiences and act on their own faith!

Do you remember how old your father was when he began working in the field? Do you know how old your mother was when she started “serving”? How many siblings she had to take care of? Today there is no need for this, but the truth is that some parents have sheltered their children at home until almost their adulthood, because they have to “study”, to have what they never had. Well yes that’s true, but if you had to learn to fight for your life and value what you have conquered through your effort and hard work, then why should it be any different with your children, even though it’s a different time?

Mother and father, everything we learn in theory doesn’t compare to the example we follow. So do not deprive your children from the benefits of work, the challenges, always direct them to overcome every situation head-on, adapting according to the occasion. Believe that: “… all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose.” (Rm.8: 28)