Youth : When is it the right time to start dating?
After our life with God the most important area to pay attention to is our sentimental life.
It is God’s will for us to be happy with someone that completes and make us a better example of Jesus.
But when is it the right time to invest in our love life?
Many young people have this question! Some have this question because they are eager to start dating, others because they see time go by and haven’t started dating, and there are those who want to invest in their careers and leave this for later.
Of course there are many other scenarios and questions about this topic, but I’ll focus on only these three types of people.
I want you to ask yourself the questions I have presented below and consider them very carefully before you start a relationship with someone.
1. Do I have the Holy Spirit?
If you don’t have the Holy Spirit everything will be much more difficult for you. You won’t have “spiritual eyes” to make the right choice, you won’t have the “Spirit of Humility” to renounce whatever a marriage requires you to, and the main thing, how will you keep your communion with God without the Holy Spirit?
I advise all young people, regardless of age or time in the church, that: “Seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you…”
2. Am I financially independent?
Dating is beautiful, but also expensive. Christian dating is holy and should be in order to get to know the person by TALKING and not by being intimate.
Places that have a good environment to get to know one another has some costs, for example, drinking a hot chocolate in the evening. In addition, the vision of a person who’s dating is to get married (expenses!) and then to keep a house (more expenses!).
If at this point (you who is single) can’t support yourself financially (you still live with your parents who support you in everything), how can you support a house with all its expenses?
3. Do I enjoy my own company?
If you see yourself as being an ugly, boring, annoying, uninteresting, and an angry person how is someone else going to think other wise?
That’s where the so-called “womanizers” enter in the picture! They see a beautiful, young, pure girl with no self-esteem and so she becomes an easy prey! If she hears someone praise her and some demonstrations of love, her heart quickly melts and she gives herself to him. After he gets what he wants he will no longer be interested!!
With that it only proves everything that she thought about herself to be right and one more thing is added to her list: “How stupid was I for falling into this trap!!”
You definitely don’t want that to happen to you.
Loneliness is one of the worst pains a human being can endure. When a person feels lonely, he or she thinks that the only way to stop this pain is by finding someone to be with, but this is not true!
Find your true worth. Until you don’t realize your true worth as a person you shouldn’t start any kind of relationship.
Even if the boy is of God and has the character of a true man, do you think he will be happy having to “carry you on his back” with all your low self esteem, depreciation, complexes and insecurities?
Think about this and take action.
Leave your comments here on what you have decided to do from now on.
12th April 2018 at 16:09
Thank you Mrs. Viviane for sharing the wisdom the Holy Spirit shares with you with all of us. Every time I made it a priority to seek God and His Holy Spirit, I would fall due to “feeling I have to be in a relationship” with a man other than God. This has always been a problem in my search. But today’s post teaches me to “Seek first the kingdom of God,and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you “,brought ease to my mind. That seeking Him without an distraction is the key to life with Him.
7th June 2016 at 23:04
I think that these steps are practical and are something I can refer back to to check and see if I am ready to date.