Who can I open up to?

Viviane Freitas

  • 7
  • Jun
  • 2013

Who can I open up to?

  • 7
  • Jun
  • 2013

Today, dialogue between family members has been lost. Where there is no dialogue there is also no trust.


Children no longer open us to their parents to tell them their problems, the difficulties they face in school, at work, with friends, and especially in their relationships.

 
They look for the wrong people and environments for support. They get involves with drugs, bad company, etc.

Parents try to reverse this situation through physical force, putting their children in recovery clinics, taking them to psychologists or even by taking extreme measures, such as assaulting them, locking them up in their room, putting them in institutions or depriving them of many things.

In your opinion, does this solve the problem?

I say no, and I speak from experience! My mother didn’t know what else to do with me. Because of my attitude, rebellion and violence she put me in a religious institute and isolated me from everyone and everything in an attempt to resolve the situation. That didn’t resolve anything! Instead, it got even worse because I accumulated more revolt.

I didn’t need much, just a little attention and dialogue with my parents. With this, we could’ve avoided many disappointments.

I don’t think it’s completely the parent’s fault; teens also should try to understand things better.
Young people don’t think like we do, they want to have things done their way.

When there is both parts understand eachother, many problems can be avoided and others can be resolved.

Today, I can understand perfectly what Teens think, feel, and the reason why they do things.
I have a teenage daughter and I always try to keep a very open conversation with her. And this has brought excellent results.

Teens stop blaming your parents for everything bad that happens in your life. Try to talk and open up to them. Show them that you are willing to listen and improve as a son or daughter.
And you, the parent, do not ignore their requests. Listen, talk, and help them, this will definitely give you a great family atmosphere inside your home.

A hug to all!


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4 comentários

  1. thank you for sharing this with us talking to my mom about my problems is something i do not do but i will do it

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  2. Thank you for your advice, as for me to be a parent is not an easy task but i am,i sometimes worried,confused because of the teenstage when i look at my child i become insecure and loose that trust of being a good guardian.i will take notice of your advice and apply it for additional.

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  3. Avery helpful advice indeed, thank you. The teenage stages can be very complex and at times, misunderstood by both parents and teens, but through engagement, as said in the post, many problems will be avoided, its better for parents to engage with their teens, at this stage because they are still easily mouldable, rather than later.

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  4. Thanks Mrs Ruth

    this quite true and I am a teen and this one other article that is has helped already cause I always wanted a way to get to open to my sisters so that I can seek for direction bit I find it so hard but I believe this article ahs already given me the direction. thanks a lot!!

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