The Assistant who doesn’t want to be the cause of any problem!

Viviane Freitas

  • 12
  • Sep
  • 2013

The Assistant who doesn’t want to be the cause of any problem!

  • 12
  • Sep
  • 2013

Surely you already know that famous phrase : ” I don’t want to be the cause of any problems!”

This saying is very common among the Assistants.

And who never uttered such words or thought so?

If someone sees someone else commit an error they don’t have the courage to speak because they think it might cause problems. She rarely takes the initiative, and never exposes her opinion. All because this infamous thought has been rooted in her mind.

She might even see one of her colleagues in war hold a responsibility and need assistance , but she won’t get involved, why? Because she doesn’t want to be the cause of any problems!

Sometimes when she comes to the church and sees that something needs to be prepared for the meeting , she won’t do it because it’s not her responsibility, and she stay in her “corner ” minding her own business.

She is very quiet. She even smiles a lot and is friendly, but she won’t say much. She goes in the church silent and leaves without saying a word. She hates the idea of ​​being the cause of any problem. She thinks that if she talk too much she will be seen in a different way.

When she sees another Assistant having a strange reaction to a church authority she doesn’t do anything. She doesn’t rebuke him or her, she doesn’t tell them it’s wrong and much less report the situation. Because if she does she thinks she will have problems with the Pastor and the other Assistants.

Just to have her name mentioned is enough to take her peace and think a thousand things. She is haunted by this diabolical concept of not wanting to be the cause of problems.

Dear Assistant who has been following me every Thursday, if perhaps that kind of thought and attitude has been part of your life, then, it’s very serious. Because this will cause a problem for both your soul and those around you. Think with me, if a person is like that she is imprisoned. She can’t help deliver others because she, herself isn’t free. She is afraid of the truth!

Look, we have to be balanced. We can never cover up the truth. Problems exist and have to be brought to light, because only then can they be resolved.

Those who hide so they don’t “cause any problems” are living in darkness. They are more prone to deceit!

And you say: ” But now I have to say everything I think? Do everything my way? Act without asking permission? ” Calm down! Moderation in everything is good. Use your reason. There is a right time and place for everything, but the truth must be told, whoever it may hurt!

Tell me and be honest. Have you ever had this type of experience? Leave your comments on today’s article .

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10 comentários

  1. Hello Mrs Luisa,

    I am very thankful for your messages towards us Assistants. They are all very helpful. I too have had this thought. Actually, it is constantly on my mind. But I guess there is a difference in the type of behavior that we do. One thing is to be zealous for the work of God another is to shy away from situations that needs to be resolve. As Assistants we need to be careful not to cause problem but we cannot make it become THE problem. Many times I had been rebuke in the past for the things that I did. At that time it was painful but as I persevered, continued serving and making mistakes, I learned. I learned that rebuke is good and because of it I grew. Negative things that we go through in life is ALWAYS positive when we are serving God. Everything is an opportunity to learn. We need to be courageous and bold to confront what is wrong. Making a mistake is not a sin. But when it becomes a habit, it becomes dangerous. We just need to be aware of our actions.

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  2. Yes I have done it! Because I have tried doing the right thing but wrongly because if its my friends I would tell them they were wrong,but others I would say its none of my business but from now on I will do the right thing,thank you.

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    1. Dear Mrs viviane

      I have done it . especially when I see someone doing something wrong and I am not close to the person I always said I dont want to be in trouble .but now I have learned and I will put into practice.

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  3. I have been on the opposite end, sometimes I would think that I talk too much or I am bothering people because when I see something I like to speak. though that can be good, but I think I have gone over board sometimes, and without being aware acted like a boss of some sort. Thank you for the message Mrs Luisa

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  4. I thank you for covering this topic.

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  5. Good day

    I have definitely experienced this; unfortunately I thought this type of assistant was acting in a correct manner, I mean who doesn’t want to stay out of trouble, but its true, deceit is very close to this type of character.

    Also I would think that it must be really difficult for God to use me when I have this character, I’m not being flexible and ready to take initiative.

    Thank you for the eye opener.

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  6. Thank you Maam for this helping intelligent eye opener because ’tis something really happening among us,so now im aware of thinking i don’t want to cause a problem although im unaware that i cause it for my Spiritual life sometimes for others soul.

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