It’s funny how some things happen and we aren’t aware of them.
I spent a good amount of time not seeing, or rather not realizing my fear. It was always there inside of me, but I never realized it.
I acted as a thief without knowing it! I would only realize after the damage or loss at the end.
Going to another country made me discover several different things, including things about myself. To work and live with strangers is not easy (I include my husband too, because we are newlyweds and there are aspects in him that I still don’t know. Certain reactions, manners, customs, etc.)
During my time here living with other people I discovered my fear, my biggest fear. Nobody likes to be reprimanded including me, but worse than being rebuked unfairly is when we are reprimanded because of a mistake committed. It was then that I realized that I feared making mistakes before people, authorities, my husband, myself and especially God.
But since I’m not perfect, I realized that some errors are inevitable and they help me mature.
I overcame my fear by facing it! I became bolder when it was time to speak, and do things, I did it without fearing I would make a mistake. I was rebuked a couple of times – to my delight – I learned from people who were willing to teach me, and not humiliate or harm me in any way.
I was able to mature by making mistakes and correcting them.
I remembered a saying that made me keep going and showed me that I was on the right track:
“Those who fear making mistakes won’t have the opportunity to make them right!”
I don’t want to be that type of person, so…
If I’m right or wrong I will only figure it out by taking risks, and not being proud. By being ready to learn, even if it’s through my mistakes and after being reprimanded.
The important thing is to always be ready to change!
Anelisa Notini (Cape Town)
21st October 2014 at 8:56
Thank you Mrs Stephany my greatest fear was to make mistake but that one dealt with but the other is what will people say that has limited me to shine I am ready for a change
3rd February 2014 at 16:47
Thank you mam for this encouraging message,i am also in the same situation of having that fear of what if,im weak because im always corrected or called an attention of making mistakes.I once even told myself not to do anything because of fear but now because of this post i will challenge this fear and do something that i fear to do.