Full of blah, blah, blah!
I’ve always helped my husband in church just as a pastor’s wife does.
But actually, I was not being of good company to him because I began to say things without thinking.
I would tell him everything that happened to me whether it was good or bad. If I was upset about something, I told him, I would pour a truckload of words onto him and because of that whatever was important was seen as if it was not. My words were full of blah, blah, blah.
I was no longer “adding ” on to his life, as I should be. He didn’t even want to hear anything I had to say anymore because it was like I would put the load on him.
It made him angry, he told me,” Stop bringing problems to me without helping me find the solution.”
He had so many things to resolve already. He even asked me what was happening to me.
I knew I was being annoying and wasn’t adding up to his life and I hated it.
My excuse was that women are like that; unlike men we need to express ourselves to someone.”
While attending the pastor’s wives meetings I started putting into practice what I heard about our feelings. Then I started to act more rational. I stopped bringing problems to my husband, but rather I would find a solution for it and tell him about it.
He said that I started to think like him.
It’s not that I shut him out, on the contrary, now we are even closer because I ‘m learning to use my reason more. Now it’s easier for me to understand him.
I no longer bother him with small things that just disturb him.
I, myself, solve the things at home and in the UCKG, just as an auxiliary should and the Holy Spirit is the one who gives me direction.
This was the change that my husband saw in me. I’ve learned to be a more rational and practical woman.
Michele Melo Florêncio, Balzar, Ecuador