Is it normal to feel jealousy of a child?
It seems incredible, but I still find people who think it’s “cute” to feel jealous about their children. The phrase itself says it all: “To feel jealous.”
Yes, it’s a “feeling” and evil as many others. There’s nothing good in it, because it only makes us fall more and more in the flesh and make decisions that later on we regret; we speak what we don’t want and we hurt those we love. So I ask: For what and why do I accept such thing inside of me? Where is the beauty in all of that?
Maybe you might respond, “Because he is MY son!”, so let’s put everything in order …
We give birth to our children, breastfeed, take care and that’s why we are mothers, and will always be, nothing and no one can change that! First of all, have this certainty within yourself: Jealousy comes from insecurity, comes from the fear of losing, of a possessive love, but since we already talked about these three feelings in previous posts (if you haven’t read, read them) you already know that they only harm us , right? So we have to look within ourselves for the cause of these “undesirable feelings”, finding the root. We can tear them out and work in us so that they never return. So, let’s go towards this inner journey.
When we do our part, when we give our children the best, we have this certainty that surely, we have in their life an important role and this will never change. There, we feel secure!
Over time they will have other plans, objectives keep on changing according to their age; however, being their mother will never change. Once again, secure.
We raise our children and we care for them so they may grow and live, the only thing that can cause insecurity is not having formed in him a strong spiritual base, which will serve him as “safe haven” in times of sufferings and struggles. But if I do or have done this, than I’m sure of my accomplished mission and much more secure he will be—because he will depend on God.
Security eliminates any doubt, fear, jealousy, instability, etc. …
Make intelligent faith the base of your life, teach your child by example and enjoy a secure life in the footsteps of Jesus.