6th Day : And when your heart complains of another person…?
Today is the 6th day of the Fast. Welcome to the Blog!
And the question of today is: “And when your heart complains of another person?”
Let’s find out what to do?
In the book of Colossians, chapter 3, verse 12, it says the following:
“Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity. Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace. And be thankful.”
(Colossians 3: 12-15)
These verses tell us many things, but I would like to make it more personal manner, with the following:
“How am I going to forgive someone, when I feel so heavy inside?”
“How am I going to be a merciful person, in other words, compassionate with my mistakes?”
“How and I going to be kind with someone when there exists, in me, a serious problem? If I am angry, upset, and I carry traumas of the past, of people who wronged me, who were perverse and wanted to destroy me!”
“How am I going to be that elect of God, beloved? How?
“How am I going to resolve my relationships with other people when it is a burden, it is difficult! When I live with someone, they have their way of being, and I have mine…; And as for kids, husband, everyone has their own way of being, some took after their parents, their grandparents, some their uncles and aunts, my family; how do I deal with all of that?”
Deal with all of this, like we spoke about in the beginning go the Fast. The biggest problem is your heart; if you and it (your heart) are not resolved!
You are going to have different relationships; for example, you are going to date someone, break up, and date someone else… or you’re going to marry and divorce… in the end, you are going to have problems with people, like your husband, co-workers, with your daughter. You are going to bring problems to yourself!
And when to resolve all of this? When are you going to stop “creating” problems with other people? When you clothe yourself as an elect of God.
And you ask me, “And how am I going to do that, Viviane? I have been wanting to change my heart for so long now… I can’t take it anymore!” Like many are commenting here on the Blog.
Cybernaut, you are going to feel, it doesn’t mean that you are going to turn into an “angel” after these 21 days. Negative! You are going to take off that “old clothe” of yours. How are you going to do that?! When you see your own problem and you unsatisfied with who you are being!
If I want to be someone who is an elect of God, in better terms chosen by Him, “holy”, separated, that lives according to His Law, people begin to receive me with joy and I feel comfortable with myself, I feel good with my presence. For this… I have to sacrifice!
First, I have to resolve what is making me look with eyes of judgment, when I look at someone and judge them… Remember that when you do this, others can do the same with you! But you can’t tell… isn’t that right? There is no hint when someone is judging, normally you can’t tell what is going on inside their thoughts, only when they tell you… but when you judge that person, but you put yourself in their shoes, you wouldn’t like it…
So, look inside yourself! Look at all the errors you have committed, how difficult you were throughout all these years: you held grudges, you didn’t make any friendships, because when you tried to be friends with someone, they betrayed you; you trusted them with something and they told it to other people. And for this, you hold on to the past and you don’t use your kindness and mercy. A person that does not act with mercy, like it is mentioned in the above Bible verse, it is because they guard the opposite of that, they guard and are attached to the past.
And that is why is is written:
“Bear with each other and forgive one another…” (Colossians 3: 13)
It is not only going to be one time, you’re going to have to forgive forever! You will not see anyone perfect, you are not! No one will be perfect in this lifetime, so overcome and withstand the mistakes. I am not saying that you are going to have to be accessary to others’ mistakes; if that be the case, then you are going to have to speak with them, but with patience. Just like you when you had difficulties understanding yourself and your heart.
“…Forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues…” (Colossians 3: 14)
Forgive! Above all! Be in peace. Be the peace of Christ!
When there doesn’t exist peace, there is doubt! Why do you have doubt? Because you’re not doing all that you possibly could….
Why did Cain get upset? Because he didn’t do his part.
When you don’t have peace, when you’re in agony, it is because you did not do the right thing, because when you do, you become merciful, humble. Do you know what being humble means? When you have a humble opinion about yourself! A sense of how insignificant you are, that you are imperfect. That is being humble!
When you attack, condemn, look with bad eyes, don’t believe in love anymore or good things, it is because you don’t believe in what God has promised for you! How are you going to receive the Spirit of God, that is the Spirit of power?! If you are not removing these things, the things that don’t please Him…
How are you going to receive something good from God, if you still want to continue with the same “old clothes”, be the same way during all this time?
For example, I can say, “I have had problems in my relationships, with friendships, co-workers, when they are always saying something…” It is because your conduct is not bringing you peace! When we have peace, we don’t have that doubt, we don’t have that problem.
My cybernaut friend, we are in this Fast, and it isn’t to look at others, and not even to appear and say that you are “holy”, marvelous, powerful. I am certain that you have observed various things that have come up, that don’t help you and that come from the heart, from your being, your soul… And it is your soul that is going to be saved or not.
Read, in Bishop Macedo’s blog, when he speaks in respect to those emotions, about what are we going to feel for the rest of eternity.
If you are anguished, with doubts, angry during these past few days, months, years, so your eternity is going to be hell! This is not what a person presents when they have peace. And when I write peace, it isn’t because you have problems on the “outside” and that is why you are anguished… No! It is because I am doing my part, guarding my faith; I am looking with good eyes, I do everything that I possibly can to do what is good!
Cybernaut, you that are reading this post, wherever you are in this exact moment, you have the great opportunity to see your weaknesses, your faults, because this is what makes us become closer to God!
When I saw myself as perfect and thinking that the error was in others, I didn’t reach God as I should have. But when I really saw that the error was mine, even though the other person was wrong as well, I wasn’t happy with the way I was reacting, my behavior; I started to “give everything” and empty myself of everything that displeased God. I spoke to Him about what I was thinking about, the way I wanted to do things, how I was feeling, etc…
Now it’s your turn!
Are you going through some difficult times? This is your opportunity!
You are having difficulties in this Fast, because everything is difficult, it seems like everything is becoming “tighter” around you? This is your opportunity to speak to God, to humbly reach Him and recognize:
“Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.” (Colossians 3: 12)
This signifies patience, tolerance, being constant. Be constant and do not be impatient with yourself. Do you know what a soul is? So, isn’t a “soul” complicated? Have patience with other souls, and have that same care with yourself, take care of those who wrong you. Be patient, gentle.
Tomorrow we will be back!
After the Fast, we will be giving continuity to what we were beginning to speak about on Fridays, about the love of God. When you discover His Love, you learn to love yourself as well. You are my “plus one” to participate! But only after the Fast…
Participate here on the Blog. Write a comment below!
It will be a pleasure reading and knowing a little bit about what is going on with you.
A big hug!
18th December 2022 at 7:30
Hello Mrs Vivianne. Forgiving my abusive family is the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do, but I don’t want to go to hell, so I’m going to keep on going.
28th April 2017 at 23:21
Thank you Mrs Viviane, I have to brave to say that this is me but I want to change this. Especially the paragraph if I’m angry means I’m going to hell because of my anger. I have to let it go. This blog is like my spiritual bin at the moment
2nd October 2015 at 22:38
Wow! i totally agree this post really spoke to me as i was going though situations of conflict with others. The problem was only solved when i humbled myself and realised that the fault was mine. I saw the bigger picture and what God wanted me to see. We treat others how we treat ouselves, so if we aren’t merciful to others it’s because were not merciful to ourselves. Thanks
Ana Paula Sossai
30th September 2015 at 22:45
It was really bad before but I still have so much to change.
Relationships, friendships I’ve always done it the wrong way, I’d be distante trying to protect myself from being disappointed again.
It is not easy, but after wanting to change and actually start fighting my own heart I’ve done a lot of progress, it is not impossible!
Thanks for sharing this Mrs Vivi, very helpful!
30th September 2015 at 15:01
I must continuously forgive others and let go of the past in order to move forward… Thank you for the post!