{"id":19978,"date":"2015-08-14T11:58:37","date_gmt":"2015-08-14T11:58:37","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.vivianefreitas.com\/fr\/?p=19978"},"modified":"2015-11-10T11:45:40","modified_gmt":"2015-11-10T11:45:40","slug":"la-surprotectrice","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.vivianefreitas.com\/fr\/2015\/08\/14\/la-surprotectrice\/","title":{"rendered":"La surprotectrice"},"content":{"rendered":"

Parlant encore des plusieurs sentiments qui nous bouleverse en tant que m\u00e8res, j\u2019ai constat\u00e9 ma surprotection, ou plut\u00f4t avec cet amour possessif qui nous fait penser que seules nous les connaissons, que nous seules les comprenons, que nous seules allons arriver \u00e0 les aider et beaucoup plus \u2026 \u00abseulement nous\u00bb<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Je le pensais vraiment et je pensais que mon fils \u00e9tait totalement d\u00e9pendant de moi, au point d’arr\u00eater de faire certaines choses \u00e0 moi, \u00e0 cause de \u00ab penser \u00bb, qu’il n’arriverais pas seul et puis, j’\u00e9tais l\u00e0, \u00e0 ne pas faire ce que je devrais afin d’\u00eatre \u00e0 c\u00f4t\u00e9 de Gabi. La pure tromperie!<\/strong><\/p>\n

Je l\u2019emp\u00eachais juste d’avoir leurs propres exp\u00e9riences.<\/span><\/p>\n

Jusqu’\u00e0 ce que pour des raisons de travail, j\u2019ai d\u00fb voyager seule et le laisser avec mon mari, imaginez ?? !! J\u2019ai tout pr\u00e9par\u00e9: les v\u00eatements, les uniformes scolaires pour chaque jour, les fournitures scolaires, le planning avec les horaires, le d\u00e9jeuner congel\u00e9, les rappels et des listes… pour que mon mari n\u2019ait \u00e0 rien oublier. Je n\u2019ai pas dormi la nuit pr\u00e9c\u00e9dant du voyage, en pensant comment Gabriel survivrait sans moi et je ne trouvais aucune solution, j\u2019ai essay\u00e9 plusieurs fois de me convaincre de rester, mais sans effet! Savez-vous ce qui est arriv\u00e9?<\/p>\n

J\u2019ai fait un malaise \u00e0 l’a\u00e9roport, j\u2019ai pu \u00e0 peine embarquer, j\u2019ai pleur\u00e9, j\u2019ai manqu\u00e9 d\u2019air et \u00e0 ce moment-l\u00e0, comment \u00e9tait mon fils?! Joyeux, en comm\u00e9morant que la maison ne serait que des gar\u00e7ons.<\/p>\n

Ce fut 10 jours d’absence, 10 jours o\u00f9 j\u2019ai appris que mon fils ne d\u00e9pendait pas de moi, mais c\u2019\u00e9tais moi qui d\u00e9pendait de lui. J’avais fait de lui, mon monde et Dieu me montrait que je me trompais; combien de choses j\u2019\u00e9tait en train de mettre de c\u00f4t\u00e9 pour lui et en plus, j\u2019emp\u00eachais mon fils de vivre, en l\u2019enfermant dans ma \u00ab\u00a0cloche\u00a0\u00bb.
\nOui, nous pouvons, leurs enseigner le chemin et les pr\u00e9parer pour les batailles, mais nous ne pourrons jamais combattre pour eux, au contraire, comment apprendront-ils \u00e0 d\u00e9pendre de Dieu?<\/p>\n

Je suis revenue totalement diff\u00e9rente, parce que nous avons surv\u00e9cu … lol, et j’ai gagn\u00e9 encore le beau cadeau de voir mon mari apprendre \u00e0 g\u00e9rer notre gar\u00e7on. Pendant mon absence, tout les deux se sont rapproch\u00e9s, ils se sont compris comme jamais auparavant, ils ont cr\u00e9\u00e9 une relation de complicit\u00e9, qui n’existait pas avant et ils ont fait des choses ensemble, qu\u2019ils ne l’avaient pas fait depuis des ann\u00e9es.<\/p>\n

Le\u00e7on d\u2019aujourd’hui, mon amie m\u00e8re: Parfois, nous attendons de nos maris soient avec nos enfants, tout comme nous le sommes, mais nous oublions que sans le savoir, nous occupons tous l’espace de protection et puis, ils se r\u00e9tractent et pensent: pour quoi je vais le faire, si elle fait toujours tout?<\/p>\n

Nous ne sommes pas irrempla\u00e7ables, personne ne l\u2019est, donc nous allons profiter et leur donner l\u2019espace pour qu\u2019ils agissent dans leur r\u00f4le de p\u00e8re, et pendant cela, que diriez-vous de vous tourner vers vous-m\u00eames?<\/em><\/p>\n

La protection exag\u00e9r\u00e9e engendre de la d\u00e9pendance du protecteur et non pas de celui que l\u2019on prot\u00e8ge, qu’en effet, une fois que vous avez la premi\u00e8re opportunit\u00e9, vous aller souhaiter courir loin, pousser des ailes et voler, et n\u2019est-ce pas ce que nous voulons?!<\/p>\n

Rendez-vous la semaine prochaine!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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